No kneeling to give wine or paying of bride price, – Newly married Nigerian doctor writes about her non-negotiables in marriage

A newly married UK-based Nigerian medical doctor, Chioma Adanne, has shared her non-negotiables in her marriage, emphasizing on equality, independence, mutual respect and fidelity.   Chioma, who got married to her husband, Chris, last month, also revealed that no bride price was paid on her head and she didn’t kneel to give palm wine to her husband during their traditional wedding.   The doctor further stated that her husband understands that every human being have equal rights, adding that any man who thinks that they are head/leader just because of a p3nis has a psychological issue called delusion of grandeur.  According to her, house chores are either done by both of them or outsourced.  Continuing, she said husband said that the number of children they would have is her decision and the kids will bear both their names.   Read her full post below:  1: No bride price was paid on my head. 2. If we will ever have children, they will bear both my name and Chris. 3. Adding my partner/husband’s surname to my name is solely my choice. I will add it if I want, I won’t if I don’t. My whole name will remain intact. 4. My husband/partner already said that the number of children we would birth will be my decision, as any man should. 5. Other than carrying the pregnancy to term there is no other responsibility he won’t carry out e.g bathing the kids, feeding them, changing diapers etc. 6. I made sure I married someone who has enough sense to understand that every human on this earth has equal rights. We make all the decisions together. We table it, discuss it, then either meet up in the middle or we go with the superior idea. 7. I did not marry someone with a mental health problem. Any man who thinks that they are head/leader just because of a penis has a psychological issue called delusion of grandeur. I married an adult, a partner, an equal. 8. I had a court wedding and a traditional wedding I picked. No kneeling to give wine or paying of bride price. 9. There is definitely no room for cheating, as I’ve made it known, cheating is my deal breaker. 10. House chores are done by both of us or we outsource. 11. I am not doing 50:50 either. We all put in according to what we can. P.S: When I asked my dad to strike a pose with me.    The post No kneeling to give wine or paying of bride price, – Newly married Nigerian doctor writes about her non-negotiables in marriage appeared first on Linda Ikeji Blog.